To Feel Like You Deserve, Sucks the Life Out of You

Recently a friend of mine passed away.  It came to me as a complete shock as it did many others.  As part of my grieving process, I was reading all the loving thoughts and memories posted on his Facebook wall.  As I read and cried, I felt so close to him and could hear his big laugh like he was sitting with me reading about himself. [click to continue…]

Dear Men,

We need your help. Women have been throwing the bullshit flag on excuses on why rape happens. The latest excuse was alcohol, promiscuity, and my favorite was “it wasn’t a violent crime”. I understand people use the “if it was your daughter, sister, mom, wife, girlfriend” thing and wonder how you would feel. So I’ve decided to say, “what if it was you or your son that was raped”? Would you be screaming from the roof top to stop this insanity? Does it change the importance when the violent crime is against a male? Is it more violent? Would things change that the victim isn’t to blame and the punishment should fit the crime?
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My Few Steps Back on Life’s Journey

As we work on ourselves, we are bound to make forward progress and then a few steps back.  This weekend I took a step back and I’m glad I did.  It gave me the opportunity to slow down and take care of me as I nurtured myself back into a “good” place.
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As we have become more busy as a society, we have forgotten what friends need and we need from friends. This has recently become more interesting in my life as I have launched a business. I got an email after having a short conversation with an old friend saying “I’m worried about you and your new business”. Now, this is rarely the best way to ever start a conversation especially if someone is going through something so new to them and on the furthest point of their fear factor.

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Comfort Zone and the Holy BLEEP Moment

So the last couple weeks I had an assignment from a group I’m apart of. This group is a bunch of coaches mixed in with an amazing artist who have been together for the last 6 months. We have all begun to start our businesses around the same time. It’s been an amazing journey together. Going from holy shit I don’t fit in here to holy shit I totally found my people and they get me within a few months. We freaked out on the building part, we grew, helped each other during a melt down when we doubted our decisions to leave jobs, pick niches that were outside of our comfort zones, getting real and showing the world who we are without holding back for the better of others or society. As we finished this up, I had to put together a goal and actually produce it before class was over…YIKES!!!
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BAM! She Did it!

So I’ve been working with a lady for a couple months and today she did it. She finally had that complete break through we both have been waiting for. We have been on the edge of the cliff for the last couple weeks dabbling in her taking her life back and running with it. She fought it back a couple times, but today she is there. She is standing in the give Zero Fks Zone and waving the flag. We had lots of tears during this process…but today; we shared tears of complete joy and pride in where she is as a strong bad ass woman.
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The Art of Busy

We American’s have glamorized busy. Is busy glamorous? If so, why? I ask my self this all the time. Why did I use to say so often when working in Corporate America? I was busy…how often did I say I was so busy?  The answer is A LOT!  Busy was a way of life.  Not being busy for me I felt guilty.  Not a little guilty, like epic levels of guilty, so I always put more and more on my plate so I wouldn’t ever be not busy.  I compared my busy to other peoples busy to make sure I won the busy war within my own head.  By the way, no one was actually competing with me on busy, but I needed that comparison to prove worth in my own mind. It had to stop!
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It’s Not Just Gaming, It’s Life Too…

The world of gaming is an interesting one and has plenty of judgments that come with it, but gaming has taught me some very valuable lessons.

You can meet some life long friends through games. They can be super important to you. They can be the ones you message when your world falls apart, to celebrate with, to lean on, or when you need a friendly voice because they truly get you. I have been a part of some pretty cool pieces of my gaming friends lives. We have experienced marriages, funerals, illnesses, new jobs, new friends, and new additions to families. I’ve asked for advice, a logo to be designed for a non-profit, mid day drinks when visiting Dallas, and had my mom send hats to my friend who’s mom was battling cancer which she knit with love and his mom adored and wore often. Gaming friends have been some of my best friends! [click to continue…]

COURAGE, Really?

Ok, I’m super frustrated with comparing Caitlyn Jenner with someone in the military to bash her. Yes, the military is amazing and wonderful and we love them. They are Heroes and Courageous with a capital H and C.

With that being said…since when did the American language have only one example as its definition? Can you not be courageous for leaving an abusive relationship or is that only for when you defend this country? [click to continue…]

Ok, I got it! Enough already…

I’ve experienced a funeral and a death this week already and it’s just Friday. There are some lessons I’ve taken away from this. First huge lesson is, no it’s not fair and never will be. I’ve learned to love more than you’ve ever loved before. [click to continue…]

No, nothing is wrong with you if you’re not married…

Have you ever sat back and thought, “I’m getting old I better do this whole marriage thing soon or people will think something is wrong with me”? Have you ever thought, “I’m getting divorced now what? Who am I”? Are/were you married and wished you never had taken the plunge? I get it completely! [click to continue…]